No music video for this song? I call shenanigans.
When I was still working for WAVE 891, among my fondest memories of that experience so long ago was the playlist we had. It was a tour de force of R& tracks that were not nearly as well-known as the ones that break into the mainstream like crazy, but memorable enough to stick if you heard it once or twice. Joe's "Another Used To Be" was one of those songs.
This song really does spell out how someone who has been broken in the past looks at relationships afterwards: there's this kind of optimism that love is in the air, but at the same time, there's some telltale fear of finding someone, and then after everything, they just become "another used to be."
Honestly, when you find yourself being very close friends with the people you love, and then you find yourself estranged after the love has gone, you can't help but feel very apprehensive about getting involved with someone again. I remember a story from St. John Bosco back in the day, about how he tried his best not to be so attached to a person because it would always hurt him when they inevitably parted, much like when he made a pact with Louis Commolo that resulted in Louis coming back from beyond the grave just to hold his end of the bargain.
Joe's song speaks of this kind of pain and agony. "Another Used To Be" is a song that communicates that unspoken fear, that perhaps, the status quo is better than changing it, because in the event of failure, the status quo could never, ever be restored.
It's interesting, really.